“Trust unto Jehovah with all thy heart,
And unto thine own understanding lean not.

In all thy ways know thou Him,
And He doth make straight thy paths.”
(Proverbs 3:5,6, YLTHB)
The statistics on physical child abuse are alarming. Of the estimated hundreds of thousands of children
battered each year by a parent or close relative, thousands die. For those who survive, the emotional trauma
remains long after the external bruises have healed. Communities and the courts recognize that these
emotional “hidden bruises” can be treated.

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Children who have been abused may display a poor self-image, Inability to depend on, trust or love others,Aggressive and disruptivesometimes illegalbehavior; Passive and withdrawn behavior; fear of entering into new relationships or activities, School failure, Serious drug and alcohol abuse.

The child and adolescent psychiatrist is able to treat the “whole child”medical as well as psychological or
emotional problems that have occurred as a result of the abuse. The family can be helped to learn new ways
of support and communicating with one another. Through treatment, the abused child begins to regain a
sense of self-confidence and trust. Child abuse is a matter of degree: the degree to which a parent uses inap-propriate or excessive control strategies with a child and/or fails to provide standards of care giving.

In fact, abusive parents often do not know they are abusive. Our culture has, for generations, used corporal
punishment as a means of controlling child behavior. Some parents think society places no restraint on such
techniques. Many may recall the old saying, “spare the rod and spoil the child.” It is not always clear what the limits are in efforts to get a child to behave.

The best way to stop the child abuse and stop the abusive parents from abusing their children is by forming a non-profit organization working in cooperation with U.S. Dept. of Welfare , a resource for children and families to report a child abuse and to search for the abusive parents and put a penalty on them.

These type of organizations have worked considerably good in the other fields and I am sure that this solu-tion will work out fairly well. In this Article ” The goal of NCMEC,” The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children states that
“The goals of the NCMEC:
A private, non-profit organization working in cooperation with
the U.S. Department of Justice, NCMEC is a vital resource for
families and Americas 17,000 law enforcement agencies in
the search for missing children and the quest for child
protection.”
In 1986, six youth and adult survivors of child abuse and neglect formed what has become a
nation-wide movement, the National Child Rights Alliance, which is the only national organization
directed entirely by youth and adult survivors of abuse and neglect. (Non-abused supporters are
important to our work as well.) This is the Same Kind of Organization which is working for child abuse pre
vention and is going very well.

Parents can help prevent abuse if they monitor their own behavior by checking to see the effect stress has on them. If you see you are losing patience easily and that it is interfering with proper supervision of your child or children, you should search out professional help and counseling. Parenting abilities can be seri-ously challenged by personal stress-related problems. Professional assistance from psychologists and other trained counselors could prevent child abuse.

Remember, child abuse is not restricted to violent behavior and the long-term effects of child abuse and poorparenting can last a lifetime.

November 19, 1996
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Topic: Domestic violence
What is domestic violence?
Domestic violence include sex abuse and intentionally or unintentionally use of physical force such as slapping, hitting and causing other injuries to your partner, children, friends, etc. A psychologist and law school professor, Mary Ann Dutton, who is an expert in domestic violence described it as “a pattern of behavior in which one intimate partner uses physical violence, coercion, threats, intimidation, isolation and emotional, sexual or economic abuse to control and change the behavior of the other partner.” (Taken from an article in www.womenslaw.org, by Valerie Despres)
These are actions considered as domestic violence:
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE is a pattern of abusive behavior which keeps one partner in a position of power over the other partner through the use of fear, intimidation and control.
PHYSICAL ABUSE: Grabbing, pinching, shoving, slapping, hitting, hair pulling, biting, etc. Denying medical care or forcing alcohol and/or drug use.
SEXUAL ABUSE: Coercing or attempting to coerce any sexual contact without consent, e.g., marital rape, forcing sex after physical beating, attacks on sexual parts of the body or treating another in a sexually demeaning manner.
ECONOMIC ABUSE: Making or attempting to make a person financially dependent, e.g., maintaining total control over financial resources, withholding access to money, forbidding attendance at school or employment.
EMOTIONAL ABUSE: Undermining a person’s sense of self-worth, e.g., constant criticism, belittling one’s abilities, name calling, damaging a partner’s relationship with the children.
PSYCHOLOGICAL ABUSE: Causing fear by intimidation, threatening physical harm to self, partner or children, destruction of pets and property, mind games or forcing isolation from friends, family, school and/or work. (Source from womenslaw.org)
What are the causes of domestic violence?
There are many factors that lead people to use violence. They use violence when they are stressed, angry, feeling hatred, drink too much alcohol, use drug. Children are more likely to grow up as violent men if they are influenced by their parents, brothers, sisters and friends, all of whom use violence.
Culture plays an important role in domestic violence. For example in Asian culture or Asian American, parents usually hit their children when the children make mistakes or do not obey the parents’ orders.
Men are much more likely to use violence than women. In the USA, women are the victims of violence at rate of 5 times more than men. “About 95% of victims of domestic violence are women. Over 50% of all women will experience physical violence in an intimate relationship, and for 24-30% of those women, the battering will be regular and on-going.” (Taken from Valerie Despres’s article)
How to protect ourselves from becoming the victims of violence?
Violence occurs everyday; it can happen to us at any time and any place. It is important we know how to protect ourselves from becoming the victims.
-Do not use violence to others such as your brother or sister, children, friends. They would do the same thing to you.

-Do not use bad language in an argument and to someone who is trying to hurt you or use violence on you because it may stimulate more anger and they are more likely to hurt you more than they intended.

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-Do not raise your voice too loud in an argument because it might lead to a fight. In Asian’s culture, men do not like people raising voice at them and they would hit people who do that to them.

-Running and seeking for help are better than fighting back if someone is attacking you.
-If you are out on a date, you should let someone know and you should also tell the person you are going out with that your friends or family know about your date. Do not go to quiet places if you are not ready to let your date touch you.


How to prevent violence?
Prevention is always better than if trying to protect yourself when you are in danger. In my opinion, it is better if we try to teach or raise children to become non-violence people than trying to change violent people to non-violent. If all children grow up as non-violent, there would be no domestic violence cases.
-Teach children at early age about violence and why it is bad.

-Do not let children use bad language, correct them in a nice way.

-Listen to children, do not try to control them, be fair to them.
-Do not express your anger on children, they will not understand it; they will take it as if you hate them.
-Be their model. Be their hero.

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