Jennifer came to me several failed visits and theripys through out her teen years. She had, like it past reports complained of “always feeling worried and anxious”. She often talked on how going out to social settings and relationships was so difficult. Believing that it was her fate to always be alone. She felt very uncomfortable around crowds as if they would turn on her in angry or disapproval. Jennifer had came to me after a referral from a mutual friend of mine. One that she had built a friendship with the current job that she had worked continuously for 2 yrs.
Talking about her past relationships, I found she hadn’t been intimate with any single person in over six yrs. That all had failed within 3 moths. Most of her broken relationships were because she felt mistrust, and a feeling that “they were trying to pull something over on me, and I (Jennifer) was so afraid of being hurt”. Often, making quick calls and predictions to the short-term future, she thought it was best to “run away.”
Jennifer’s body language showed of an act. Working in the pubic she had taught herself to act how she viewed as normal. There was difficulty in eye contact, almost as if she was fighting not to look away. Observing her petite frame, it was on that Turning around I viewed her expressions threw a mirror on the wall, becoming untensed and looking down, it was an action of a person being gratefully relived.
After building a strong foundation over several months, I begun slowly taking her back to her teen years. I found when Jennifer was 15 years of age; she had become intimate with a 17-year-old male. This relationship had lasted for two years. During the relationship, she told of constily being put down, that it wasn’t nothing physical but all mental. She told of several experiences of that the male had look outside their relationship for other sexual gradifications, even so far to involve the majority of her trusted female friends. Jennifer spoke with tremble in her voice as she recalls certain personal situations. The short stories were that of deceit and humiliation.
Social Phobia is the marked and persistent fear of one or more social or performance situations in which the person is exposed to unfamiliar people or to possible scrutiny by others. The individual fears that he or she will act in a way (or show anxiety symptoms) that will be humiliating or embarrassing. Exposure to the feared social situation almost invariably provokes anxiety, The person recognizes that the fear is excessive or unreasonable. The feared social or performance situations are avoided or else areendured with intense anxiety or distress. The avoidance, anxious anticipation, or distress in the feared social or performance situation interferes with the person’s normal routine, occupational functioning, or social activities or relationships, or there is marked distress about having the phobia. If you suffer from social phobia, you tend to think that other people are very competent in public and that you are not. Small mistakes you make may seem to you much more exaggerated than they really are. Blushing itself may seem painfully embarrassing, and you feel as though all eyes are focused on you. You may be afraid of being with people other than those closest to you. Or your fear may be more specific, such as feeling anxious about giving a speech, talking to a boss or other authority figure, or dating. The most common social phobia is a fear of public speaking. Sometimes social phobia involves a general fear of social situations such as parties. More rarely it may involve a fear of using a public restroom, eating out, talking on the phone, or writing in the presence of other people, such as when signing a check.
Although this disorder is often thought of as shyness, the two are not the same. Shy people can be very uneasy around others, but they don’t experience the extreme anxiety in anticipating a social situation, and they don’t necessarily avoid circumstances that make them feel self-conscious. In contrast, people with social phobia aren’t necessarily shy at all. They can be completely at ease with people most of